What Works (for You) is What's Right

Ah, motherhood

This new(ish) season in life is unlike any I've ever experienced -- and I've pulled all-nighters for law school exams, which were worth 100% of my grade, and stayed inside for 12 straight days while studying for the bar exam. I am no stranger to stress or spreading myself thin. 

But I am new to this experience and what I've learned over and over and over again, is that it is different for everyone. And everyone does it differently. Similarly to other life experiences, I do what works, I cut myself slack when I fall short, and I promise to be better.

What I'm getting at is that I'm not perfect and neither are you. And that's okay. You can do a lot but you can't do it all, and that's okay, too. That's been my biggest takeaway--I can be Mom, Wife, Attorney, etc., but (and it's a pretty big but) I have to compartmentalize. I can't FaceTime my son while I'm meeting a client. That doesn't mean I'm any less of a mom--it just means I'm doing what I can when I can.

I'm sure you are, too. So, be proud of yourself and love yourself--shortcomings and all. Speak up and speak out. Know it's also okay to take a step back. Be in solitude if you need to. Cry if you want to. Vent if you have to. You know you better than anyone else. So, be you. Do what you have to. Be it work. Me time. Sleep time. Do what works for you. Be it formula. Bottle. Breast.

And don't you apologize for it. You have nothing to be sorry about. You have nothing to feel guilty about.

You care, you love, and you're trying to be the best mom you can be. You're doing everything right.


  1. I love this post! What works for one does not work for others and that's okay. :)

  2. You are right, we all have different ways of parenting and we are all right. Every mother knows whats best for her child.

  3. Love this! It took me a long time to become confident in my parenting. For so long I was trying to be perfect and do things the "right" way. Now I just do me and we're all better off because of it!