𝘞𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘨. ⁣

We were not trying for a girl.

Would we have loved a girl? Yes, just as we will our third boy. To be honest, I did not 100% have a preference either way. 

The way I saw it: We already had boys so a girl would be cool and different, and would allow us the experience of having a daughter... however, I only know what being a mom to boys is like, and being a girl and woman in this world is full of unique complexities and obstacles. 

I have been fortunate to have a healthy mother-daughter relationship with my mom, and while I love her dearly, I also see the special and unique relationship she has with my brother so I've witnessed firsthand that moms and boys share something special.

Quite frankly, when people would ask me if we were going to "try for a girl" (that phrase makes me cringe), I would respond that we'll be trying for another baby, and would be just as happy if I wound up with four boys (something deep down tells me that could be our future lol).  

I know sometimes we have external and/or internal pressures placed upon us to have kids of certain sexes (boy/girl, brothers, sisters)... but as a mom, I don't know anything but the love of my boys. How could I wish for anything else?

Besides, what does their sex really matter? My boys are loving and sweet. They love cars and trucks, and play with dolls. (Did you know research has shown that doll play can provide "a unique opportunity for children to practice social interactions important for developing social-emotional skills, such as empathy"?)

As a mom, my hopes of raising kind + compassionate, emotionally intelligent + resilient kids doesn’t depend on their sex.